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To Be Free Again: Finding Closure with Mom

Published on July 12, 2012 By Susan Tolles

Elise Krentzel has always had a strained relationship with her mother. Here, she discusses finally finding letting go, as her mother’s health diminishes and both she, and her mom, are able to be free again.

Menopause and Poetic Justice

Published on September 15, 2011 By Susan Tolles

Menopause is a second coming of age. Extraordinary physical changes (erratic fluctuations of estrogen production) may unnerve the soul in ways not experienced in the preceding three or four decades. We temporarily forget that we are passengers with this physical form and not entirely in control of it.

Help and hope for Alzheimers Caregivers

Published on June 11, 2010 By Susan Tolles

From Dale Carter: While discovering that our aging parent has Alzheimer’s may seem like a devastating loss, one woman shows us the way to view it as a life-changing opportunity. That woman is Lori La Bey.  She is no stranger to Alzheimer’s.  Her mother suffered early onset Alzheimer’s, and after 30 years, is in the more »

Lessons on being resilient

Published on May 5, 2010 By Susan Tolles

Our aging parents face all sorts of challenges as they grow older: A simple illness can wreak havoc on a compromised immune system. A fall can result in a broken hip and extensive rehab. The loss of a spouse can result in quick onset of depression. The 3 challenges I’ve listed are more common than more »

Survival tools for a caregiver

Published on April 12, 2010 By Susan Tolles

Margery Pabst, author of “Enrich Your Caregiving Journey” was a guest on my BlogTalkRadio show.  If you have time, I highly recommend you listen to the archived recording.  She shared so many nuggets of wisdom for caregivers.  I’ve decided to highlight 3 tools that I think are quite unique and powerful. Create a Circle of more »

“Top 5″ lists when caring for aging parents

Published on February 17, 2010 By Susan Tolles

I’ve created two Top 5 lists that summarize keypoints that will help you and your aging parent before crisis hits. 5 things I did (in my mother’s crisis) that helped 5 things I wish I had known and done beforehand 5 Things I did that helped us: 1. From the start, my mother and I more »

Caregivers–parenting your parents

Published on February 15, 2010 By Susan Tolles

Parenting our parents is one of the greatest challenges for the over-50 generation. It can mean not only taking care of your family and your career, but also taking care of the physical and emotional needs of an aging parent who becomes more dependent on you every day. It is important to get support when more »

How to Deal with a Difficult Sibling in Decision-making for an Aging Parent

Published on February 10, 2010 By Susan Tolles

It seems that every day I have a similar conversation with friends and colleagues.  “I can’t get our family on the same page about our elderly parent.  It’s like my brother came in from another planet.”  I laughed the first time I heard that statement but realize that’s exactly how I felt about my brother! more »

Better communication with your parent

Published on February 8, 2010 By Susan Tolles

Many long-distance caregivers are preparing for visits with our aging parents during the spring and summer. We all want to make the most of the time with our parents. But do you sometimes end your visit and realize you wished you had broached some important topic? OR sensed there was something your parent was not more »

Dealing with your parent’s “stuff”

Published on February 3, 2010 By Susan Tolles

My parents lived in the same town their entire adult lives in only two houses. After my father passed away and my mother’s health was failing, we made the tough decision to move her closer to me to an assisted living complex. Then came the hard part–going through the years of “stuff” to decide what more »